You do not have to give a blow job or have sex with a man in order for a man to feel all of these things that I have just described. Not at all! A blow job is just an act. However, when you cannot have sex, or when your body truly does not want to open to sex because you need to trust a man more first, or because you need to bond with a man more first — which are all very important things!
Then you should absolutely not give a blow job or have sex out of fear of losing him. You can still give a blow job if you want to give a man a gift without having to have sex. But you should never do it out of fear or to try to keep a man around! There is something else that you can give that is much more valuable…here it is…. What a man really wants deep down inside, is not just the act of sex. A lot of us, men and women, assume that for men, sex and blow jobs are the most important thing.
We mistakenly assume that without sex, men will be unhappy. Well, at the core of it, it is a symbol of value from the woman.
It is the hope of future access to a woman and it is a sense that she is open to him, and him only. In this respect, men speak a different language of love, and it is no use telling a man you love him and admire him if you will not open up and give him your feminine energy.
You have a menstrual cycle, after all. And your emotions and states change along with the changing cycle. What matters is that you are not giving him the impression that you are closing off to him for good, because this scares him — a lot.
They had to be afraid of it, because if a woman makes a man a cuckold gets pregnant by another man whilst in a relationship with him , then that means a man spent valuable physical and emotional resources on her for nothing.
It is, evolutionary speaking — the absolute worst thing that can happen to a man. Is your man serious about committing to you? So always remember, having sex with a man is not as valuable as you being emotionally and sexually open to him. This means not deliberately threatening the relationship in any way, cutting him off, giving the silent treatment, or giving the cold shoulder and trying to make him feel small.
If you are scared of having sex or scared of trusting him, for any reason, at least let him know your feelings. This is worth much more than you closing off, avoiding him or wearing a bunch of masks to cover up your deepest truths. The important thing to take out of this point is that by giving your man oral sex, you are giving him love in the way that he understands it and can receive it. In order to truly give to someone, you have to understand how they perceive love , and being taken care of.
Here are 3 things that make you a high value woman to men. If we just give what is valuable in our own world , we create more problems, due to our own lack of attunement.
This is sometimes very difficult for women to relate to, which is why I am writing this post. I get it. We have a cycle as women and simply may not always be ready. And ideally, men would accept that reality! We have to look beyond what a man is saying he wants, and look deeper, considering what a man is really asking for. Often, you may find that what a man really wants is to get you to open up and feel. Click here to find out right now…. This leads to a painful contradiction for a man.
See, giving a blow job can be a dark act or it can be a light act. In other words, it can be loving and spiritual or it can be dark and dirty and liberating. If you do not regularly engage in sex, yet you truly do not reject your own dark sexual energy e. This is because you are free, and by being with you, a man is also free, even sexually free.
Free to be all that he is, sexually, and free to experience the whole realm of who you are and connect to the whole realm of who you are and all he is. That is the ultimate value and gift of freedom to a man. Here is what it means to be dark and light feminine. I am not here to tell you that you must give blow jobs. But I am here to let you know that a blow job is valuable to your man. But this importance is just here for perspective.
It is only something for you to consider. It always helps to be open to understanding what is value to your man in a relationship. Maybe you are not ready to give blow jobs right now, and that is okay. In fact, that is more than okay, and it is necessary. At the end of the day, you are a woman, you naturally have menstrual cycles.
As such, your desire for sex will change constantly. Your desire for it may be based on the time of the month, where you are in the world, how you feel. It may also be based on how your man makes you feel, how much trust you feel for your man, how willing you are to surrender and be out of control, and even how your girlfriends make you feel. Men are going to have to accept that if they want a woman — then they must love that they have a woman. She usually only releases one egg per month, and often, how much she desires sex is tied closely to the mechanism of that egg and where her cycle is at.
For example, our man might not perceive much value in being romantic and generous to his woman, but his woman does! So if he does show romance, and considers her anyway at least every now and then, maybe a few times a year , it means to HER that he cares about her and loves her. To put it simply, if a woman is open to experiencing her own dark and light sexual desires, her feminine energy she will understand this.
If she appreciates and chooses to understand rather than reject the masculine energy, she will have no trouble understanding and even appreciating the fact that her man gets some of his needs met through sex. It is much easier to have a healthy relationship when you are open to all parts of your man and yourself. As uncomfortable and difficult as it can be. Anywhere from 1 minute to 30 minutes or more — depending on your style, approach and your goal.
Not every guy finds it a turn on or likes the act — just most guys. So it can be normal for some guys to not like it. Thanks for reading! What are your thoughts on why do guys like BJ? Leave a comment below and share with us your experiences, the good, the bad and the ugly! If you want to be supported by a warm community of high value feminine women, then join our Facebook Group.
Together with her husband D. I just wanted to note that while I rather liked the article it really only served to show me just how masculine I am at my core though I am a woman. I communicate my love through sex, through a conscious willingness to submit to my trusted mate, etc.
Indeed, it is a sensitive topic which a lot of people are not entirely comfortable talking about. I really appreciate this. Or more like, emotional needs through sexual means. A lot of women need to hear this! Thank you Renee! I did appreciate this article.
Many years ago my husband explained tome that when he receives a blow job from me, it is creating such an intimate feeling for him, and it is as if to him I am totally accepting his essence. It was that special and intimate to him. Articles Coaching Programs Contact Renee. Total Shares 4. Table of Contents. Renee Wade. Connect deeper with her work through the social media links below. Notify of. Inline Feedbacks. View Replies 2. A quick shower is usually sufficient to keep things fresh down there.
No one wants something smelly in their face. Yep, genitals and semen have a taste. What does it taste like? Some are long, others are short. There are dark or pale ones, smooth or ridged ones. Not all pubes are trim and tidy. Oral sexually transmitted infections STIs exist. Any skin-to-skin contact or contact with bodily fluids can spread STIs. Lower your risk and give yourself a tasty treat by using flavored condoms. Gagging does not a good blow job make — though some might literally beg otherwise.
You can avoid gagging by placing the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth to block your throat. Only if you want to. You can still give them a mind-blowing beej without going deep.
Maneuver it toward the roof of your mouth instead. Look for nonverbal signs of pleasure, like faster and heavier breathing or thrusting action. Start off slow with light pressure, and slowly increase your pace.
Make sure to lock eyes often or even the entire time to create a connection that leaves a lasting impression long after the job is done.
And the vibration from your mouth will feel amazing for them. Take your lips on a tour of the genital region. The entire area is a place of wonderment and nerve endings longing to be explored. Nearby attractions include the head, frenulum, scrotum, and inner thighs. The frenulum is the little ridge of skin on the underside of the penis where the shaft meets the head. Feeling adventurous? Take the back road to the perineum and the anus — with their consent , of course. Oral is the perfect time to get touchy-feely.
You can use your hand to control the depth and show other parts of their body some extra love. Alternate between licking the shaft, swirling your tongue around the head, and letting your hands take over to switch things up. What better way than some good old-fashioned making out? Get them primed by kissing and caressing some of their other erogenous zones , like their ears and neck.
They can stand or sit while you kneel in front, or they can lie flat on their back while your lips hover above. Pull it out while leaving the rest of their clothes intact, or pull their underwear down far enough to reach all their bits. You can use the tip to flick the frenulum, then swirl it around the head before gently bringing them into your mouth. Focus on letting your tongue and lips make contact. Your teeth will just sort of blend into the background and disappear.
Heck yeah! Use your hand to stroke the shaft and let your thumb graze the frenulum as you reach the head. You can continue to do this while licking and sucking. Put those multitasking skills to the test and use your other hand to gently massage their balls at the same time. As long as they consent, then absolutely!
Just be sure to use a lot of lube. Begin by applying gentle pressure to their perineum using the pads of your index and middle fingers, then insert an uber-lubed finger into their anus. Use the tip of a butt plug to tease the opening before slowly inserting it.
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